tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post1587093208561207047..comments2023-11-10T09:23:27.270-06:00Comments on Fourth Generation Teacher: I Couldn't Stop the Bullying--My Biggest FailureFourth Generation Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16700328444005416956noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post-54367152093394316082014-12-18T20:13:30.308-06:002014-12-18T20:13:30.308-06:00Thank you, Robyn. This subject has haunted my enti...Thank you, Robyn. This subject has haunted my entire career...I never felt like I had enough information and skills to keep every kid in my class and school safe...to see beyond the surface. I'll look into this book too!<br />Fourth Generation Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16700328444005416956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post-84389205390247550762014-12-18T17:42:58.958-06:002014-12-18T17:42:58.958-06:00Claudia, your story is inspiring and honest. I wis...Claudia, your story is inspiring and honest. I wish there were more teachers like you! I struggled with my son's elementary school, who labeled him as a trouble maker when some girls were picking on him in class. I ended up enrolling him in another district. I'm so thankful for the #YesAllDaughters campaign, especially since I also have a 14 year-old daughter now in high school. You might be interested in a wonderful book on this topic by Nancy Omeara called, Creating Hate: How It Is Done, How To Destroy It: A Practical Handbook. It's very eye opening and full of valuable information. <a href="http://www.authornancyomeara.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.authornancyomeara.com</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152853875103214253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post-74797736527952440542014-12-07T18:05:32.293-06:002014-12-07T18:05:32.293-06:00I taught for thirty years and when our daughter wa...I taught for thirty years and when our daughter was in grade school I taught her what I learned at MCRD. I taught how to take out a bully in just a few well placed blows that didn't require much force. She only used what I taught her once when her first boy friend broke his word to her and started smoking cigarettes again. She really didn't mean to hit him there---she lost her tempter, which was rare----but he learned quickly to stop smoking or never to smoke anywhere around her or any of her friends that might tell her.Lloyd Lofthousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08828275232705892137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post-41828971696661071722014-12-07T07:47:15.427-06:002014-12-07T07:47:15.427-06:00Your words mean so much to me...This is such a hug...Your words mean so much to me...This is such a huge issue for us all, and in many ways, teachers' hands are tied. Do we stop the flow of the lesson and break others' engagement? Do we accept the lies of 'just kidding?' I never found an answer that satisfied me.Fourth Generation Teacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16700328444005416956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7633935880322794283.post-81959567910525308322014-12-06T18:57:52.916-06:002014-12-06T18:57:52.916-06:00Of all of the commentary on the rapes and the Yes ...Of all of the commentary on the rapes and the Yes All Daughters movement, this has resonated with me the most. How much can we as teachers do? How much of it is a function of our schools becoming WAY TOO BIG. If I am in the hallway monitoring, then I can't be in my very-hidden classroom. If I am in my classroom, I'm not in the hallway. Kids know when teachers aren't looking. I see them watching me watching them and know that they will do something the second I take my eyes off of them. It is so often our word against theirs, and they will LIE STRAIGHT UP to their parents. Lie, lie, lie. Parents will be complicit in the lie, too. We had one case a few years back in which a kid pulled the hair of a student teacher in the hallway and then ran off and wouldn't come back when she called out to talk to him. We had it on video, and the dad still glossed it over. I blame the admin at the time, who LET this parent gloss it over when there was clear evidence. So, I was not surprised when Shelley Hickman reported that in the case of the rape videos being disseminated that some of the students and their parents were fighting back and denying having anything to do with it. My biggest frustration in all of this is that people assume that we can just throw a program together, add another unfunded mandate in the form of a class or an assembly, and it will make any kind of difference. Kids tune out Second Step and cyberbullying lessons, or they say one thing in class and then, in their unstructured, off campus time, do something completely the opposite. Almost all of the bullying episodes I've known about in the past few years start on social media or group texts and then spill into the school day. I want to scream at parents to monitor their kids' phones and even question their need to have them at all. Sorry...I have had so many thoughts about all of this and haven't known how to respond. I am not surprised that you are able to voice what I couldn't. :) I'm so sorry about what happened to your granddaughter, and the fact that the protest may have sparked a change in the other girl brought tears to my eyes.Halfway Hiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02836632987941863225noreply@blogger.com